So many things to think and say. I'll just say a little. We picked the boys up today and they were both upset leaving Joan's. It was apparent that they understood that they wouldn't be going back to stay. (Thank you to Bliss for asking the question -"is today when you get the boys for one day at a time?" Yes, we don't have to take forever all at once, we can thankfully take it one day at a time.)
We then took them to meet with their mom and they were still upset. Mostly they were upset because they were soooooo tired. Try explaining to mom though that "they were like this when we got them". We got to entertain the boys and get them to calm down a little while their mom talked to the case workers. So once she was ready they were in a better frame of mind. Sounds like mom has had a set back and the case worker is talking to us about shared parenting. (which basically is involving mom as much as possible so she feels involved in their lives)
Since the boys had such a rough day we thought we'd just bring them home have some dinner and let them unpack their toys. Santa had left them quite a bit at Joan's and we were glad that he hadn't left them more here. We figured we'd wait to open presents till tomorrow maybe.....
Well, you can see how that turned out. I had to stop snapping pictures because Isaiah was opening everything in sight. Sam was happy to open one thing and play with it. Brad unpacked the car (Joan said, "I thought you had a van" I wish, once I saw all the things that she sent with the boys including sleds they got for Christmas.) I put some of their clothes away and Isaiah and Sam played pretty contently for a large part of the time Brad was gone to get groceries.
At one point tonight I thought that "if it is like this more times then not we will all be just fine." Because of the transition we let the boys just kind of act out a bit just to get their bearings and did finally, right before bed, have to do a time out with Isaiah. Isaiah was acting out a lot the last handful of days with Joan so we want to let him understand that we still have rules, but it is ok to be upset. Sam of course doesn't really get it but does know when Isaiah is upset and then he's upset.
So now the boys are in bed the living room is sort of picked up and Brad is on the floor putting together a toy with a hundred parts the boys got from Joan. Not quite the 1st Christmas with kids that we envisioned the last number of years. But I think there will be visions of sugarplums dancing tonight.
A very Happy New Year to you, and thank you for your prayers and support - Brad, Kodi, Isaiah, and Sam
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